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The thing that I have been hard at work on is here. It's called: "Getting Started: The Longhair Aaron Way," and it is a free download for those of you who are just getting started on your journeys to happy-nappy long hair, or for those of you who want friendly reminders to keep in mind as your journey continues. It is quick, informative, and easy to digest. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did in writing it.

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Are you doing everything right, and still having issues with breakage? Don't fret! It might be the type of hair that you have, and I'm NOT talking about your curl pattern...


I was recently sent some samples by Nature's Addiction: A wonderful company specializing in all-natural products for the hair and body made with organic and raw ingredients. I am a big fan of the founder of the company, and now, I'm just as big of a fan of her products. I can honestly say that I loved all five of the samples that I was sent, and am thrilled to share my experiences with them to you.


"White or yellow? Which color Shea butter is good for your hair, and which is bad for your hair?"

Shea butter can naturally come in varying shades of white and yellow. Both are good for your hair. If you are having a problem with a Shea butter according to its color, then chances are you might have purchased a bad batch of Shea butter (it can happen every now and then), or you might not be getting the real deal from whomever it is that you're buying your Shea butter from. This is only ever a problem if you're buying from a seller who is not reputable.

It's not the color of shea butter that you should really pay attention to, but the smell of it. Unrefined shea butter will have a smoky smell to it. Refined shea butter will not.

Although unrefined Shea butter can come in shades of yellow and white, refined Shea butter will always be white. Bright white.

Refined shea butter can still be used on the hair in the same ways that unrefined shea butter is used, but it won't have the same amount of nutrients in it that unrefined shea butter has. This is more of an issue for your skin than your hair, because your skin is what will benefit from the nutrients. The tradeoff for using refined Shea butter is that you won't smell like shea butter after using it (if the smell of shea butter bothers you), and you can make unrefined Shea butter smell however you want it to smell by adding fragrance to it.

I have used both white and yellow Shea butter on my hair, and both worked well on my hair. I have used refined Shea butter on my hair, and it is a fine sealant and softener. Shea butter comes from a plant, so not every batch will be exactly the same.  As long as you buy from a quality seller, you will get a quality product. At the end of the day, your hair will tell you if a product is working or not.

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Natural hair care can be tedious at times, and it sure as hell can frustrating, but the tough times should account for much less of your hair journey than the good times. Generally speaking, your hair journey shouldn't stress you out, or make you want to kill someone. To put it simply: Don't take natural hair care too seriously.

Your hair can take over your life if you let it; Don't.

You can become obsessed with doing everything perfectly, according to "the rules;" Don't. There are no rules; only guidelines. Your hair will always have the final say!

You can become obsessed with length, and check your hair every hour/minute/day/week; Don't! You will drive yourself crazy. Hair growth is a slow-moving process. If you must check length. I suggest checking every 2, 4, or 6 months. Hair grows on average 6 inches a year. If you have a slower rate of growth, it will be less than that. Instead of focusing on growth, I suggest that you focus on minimizing/eliminating breakage and split ends (they are often caused by improper handling of the hair). Do that, and you will gain length.  

Relaxation is key on your journey. Don't drive yourself crazy by obsessing over anything. It's not that serious. Your hair is programmed to grow; let it. Give your hair what it needs, then chill. The rest has to be left up to time...

Stay Happy & Stay Nappy



1) Nothing.

If you really don't give a shit about what someone has to say, then mean it.

2) "Your opinion is irrelevant."

Let a critic know that what they have to say about you has absolutely NO value, then leave the situation. They will try to say something to get under your skin, so don't let them. Don't make a nobody a somebody.

3) Ask your critic: "Why do you think I give a shit about what you have to say?"

Let them answer this question... the results should amuse you. Then, remind them that you don't give a shit.

4) "That's nice."

When someone has something evil to say about your appearances, let them know how ineffective their words were on you by saying "that's nice," then moving on. A bully/critic wants to have an effect on you; that's the only way they can have power over you. When they don't get it, they will move on to their next target.

5) "No, I look like the _____."

When a critic says you look like an idiot/a fool/an ass, say "No, I look like THE idiot/THE fool/THE ass." Critics aren't ever expecting you to have a sense of humor. When you show your sense of humor, it catches them off guard, and completely reduces their effectiveness.

6) "Fuck Off."

Sometimes, you have to put someone in their place. Every now and then, a person needs to be told to shut the fuck up. Do it, and keep it moving. Then, get back to being happy and nappy...

...and stay that way!



Get to know your hair! Find out what it likes, what it doesn't like, what its strengths are, and what its challenges are. Then, employ hair practices that take advantage of your hair's likes and strengths, that manage its challenges, and that keep you away from what it doesn't like.

Take my hair for example:

-My hair LIKES certain oils and whipped butters
-My hair DISLIKES protein(!)
-My hair's STRENGTHS are that it stretches easily and does what it's told .
-My hair's CHALLENGES are that it is very fine, and breaks easily.


... In my regimen, I will incorporate practices, techniques, and products that reflect my understanding of my hair. That means:

- Taking advantage of what it LIKES by using oils that my hair loves, in different ways and combinations, on my hair (ex. my hair oils, olive oil/honey conditioner).

- Honoring my hair's DISLIKES by staying away from proteins, oils/products that mimic proteins, and all products that contain proteins/protein-mimicking ingredients.

- Working with my hair's CHALLENGES by stretching my hair before I detangle my hair, stretching it before I wear it loose to minimize tangling,  as well as keeping my vulnerable hair in protective styles very frequently (even more frequently than other afro-hair types), using only my fingers to handle all grooming needs, and being as gentle as possible when manipulating my hair in order to minimize/prevent breakage.

As a result of my understanding my hair, my hair doesn't give me much trouble!

When you focus on your hair's likes and strengths you are giving it what it wants; when you manage the dislikes and challenges you are giving your hair what it needs. When you give your hair what it wants and needs, you are making your hair very happy, and you are showing it the way to get long.

Stay Happy & Stay Nappy



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